
And I’m on a mission to get a barbell in every woman’s hands. After my career in powerlifting, I’ve spent the last decade educating millions of people on how to get stronger and build confidence in a world that’s focused on shrinking them.
I now coach 25,000+ women inside my strength training app, and this blog is where I share the conversations, lessons, and questions worth digging into a little deeper.
If you can’t do a pull-up yet, you’re not weak.
You’re just missing a few pieces.
Most people don’t fail at pull-ups because they “aren’t strong enough.”
They fail because they’re training the wrong things — in the wrong order.
Let’s fix that.
This is the exact progression that has helped thousands of women get their first strict pull-up — and it’s the same method I used myself.
We’ll cover:
Before we talk about strength, we need to talk about position.
Most beginners grab the bar and look like this:
Shoulders up by the ears.
Ribs flared.
Swinging around.
That’s a dead hang.
Instead, you want a hollow body hang.
Here’s what that means:
You should look slightly like a banana.
This position:
If you can’t control your body in the hang, you won’t control it in the pull.
If you’re not doing pull-ups yet, practice hollow body hangs instead of dead hangs.
Same cues:
Start with:
If you can hold a true hollow body for 30 seconds?
You’re in a great place.
Another common weak point: shoulder blade control.
When you hang, your delts shouldn’t be up by your ears.
Instead, think:
Pull your shoulder blades down.
That tiny movement?
That’s a scapular pull-up.
Practice it by:
This teaches you how to initiate the pull correctly.
Because pull-ups don’t start with your arms.
They start with your back.
If you take nothing else from this article, take this:
The negative pull-up is the most important exercise for getting your first pull-up.
Not bands.
Not lat pull-downs.
Not rows.
Negatives.
How to Do It:
Do NOT:
The eccentric builds the exact strength you need for the concentric.
If you can’t control yourself for at least 1–2 seconds:
But the goal is still control — not bouncing.
Let’s say on your first test day, you can control your negative for 10 seconds.
Here’s your plan:
You can break it up however you want:
Just hit the total.
Next session?
Add 2 seconds.
20 → 22
22 → 24
24 → 26
Train this 3x per week for 3–4 weeks.
Then retest your max negative.
Most people who reach:
This is progressive overload.
It works.
There’s a lot of debate about “best pull-up exercises.”
Here’s my honest ranking.
Band pull-ups aren’t bad — they just make the hardest part easier, which means you’re not building strength where you need it most.
Lat pull-downs are great for general strength — but:
If your goal is your first strict pull-up, negatives beat both.
One of the most common limiting factors?
Grip.
And no, squeezing a stress ball isn’t enough.
To build grip:
If you can’t hold onto the bar long enough to lower yourself slowly, you won’t build the strength you need.
Grip matters.
Pull-ups are a skill.
And like any skill — they respond to consistent, structured practice.
That depends on:
But most women who train negatives 3x per week see major progress within 3–6 weeks.
And yes — you absolutely can get your first pull-up.
If you don’t want to piece this together yourself, my program, Stronger By The Day, includes:
You don’t need random workouts.
You need progression.
And you’re stronger than you think.
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